God's Plan (Part One: The One)
Author: Zachary Knebel
No, no, I’m not talking about the great song from Drake. What I’m talking about is the awesome perfect plan that God has for all of us. What is that plan? Why can’t we just know it? Wouldn’t it be easier to follow God’s plan if we knew it? So many questions and Drake’s
song doesn’t answer any of them. In my next few posts I will be exploring questions I have of God’s plan for me. I don’t know it but I’m hoping to find peace with that. This is all based on my opinion and on what I have read and experienced. Hopefully if you have the same questions as me, this will help you.
Part One: The One
There is someone I’ve been thinking about lately, my future wife. Every time I say the rosary, I offer a decade up for her. I am always praying for my future family and marriage because I know that when we start dating, it’s not going to be easy. It will take work. She will be my soulmate, but not at first. I don't believe in the traditional soulmate. God’s plan isn't for us to find one specific person that we will be happy with and everything will be a fairy tale. The truth is that we will have to work at maintaining the relationship. That work is what builds the relationship. Through that work you become soulmates. You become best friends. That future best friend is not there for your self-fulfillment. As Fr. Mike Schmitz says (link at the bottom) Marriage isn't about self-fulfillment; it's about self-giving. The person who will become your soulmate is there to get you and your kids to heaven. God wants me to be happy. He wants me to get to heaven. God is going to put people in my path and I must choose which person is going to help me get to heaven. I must choose which one of these people will be my soulmate. That's really the trouble. Choosing who will be the one. I don't have an answer for that. I haven't been successful with it. But I’m going to be praying that God helps me with this, and I will continue to pray for my future best friend. On my journey to finding her I’m going to fall down a lot, but I think one thing that will help is to write to her. When I was 15 years old I wrote a letter to my future wife. I think I’m going to start this again. I want her to know how God led me to her, and what I have learned with every setback. If it wasn't for those setbacks, I wouldn't be who I am, and I wouldn't be with her. God’s plan is complicated and is not easy for us, but if we could see it from his point of view we would understand that it is best for us.
Maybe these two videos will help you with your journey of finding the one.
Happy Thanksgiving and God Bless!
-Zachary